RFFT

pronounced - Rift

A RELATIONSHIP built on TRUST that resulted in FEAR salvaged by a FRIENDSHIP

We are all taught from an early age that one of our main goals is to find and settle down with that special significant other and procreate. Amid all the others goals in life, this seems to cause the most problems with people including myself. Truth of the matter, there is only three possibilities that people can fall into, Happily Single, In between Happily Single and Settled, and Settled Down. In my opinion, the majority of my age group (19-30) fall in the inbetween category which can be very confusing and frustrating. Imagine leading a life of full of agitation and axiety caused by the presence and feelings of apprehension, hurt, and self-doubt; commonly known as FEAR. Molded and cultivated over time throughout their formidable years as a child by broken promises and neglect and nurtured over the years as an adult. This condition would cause anyone not to rely on the integrity, ability, or character of any person including people they know and do not know. When one leads a life such as this it is evident to the individual, and it is no secret that they do not TRUST people. What happens when a close connection is made between that person and another generated by sexual involvement? This RELATIONSHIP starts a mental game of tug-of-war where the question of trusting that individual is at hand. If trust wins the game, then all the mental barriers protecting oneself from the onslaught of fear comes tumbling down. Which leaves the mind, once protected by a solid rock, vulnerable to the outside world. If you have been reading closely, you would realize that the other person in this relationship is not a FRIEND. It is not one whom they know, like, and trusts, nor have they shared in a common experience. The relationship was based purely on sexual involvement. As with all things not rooted in a firm foundation, the relationship came to a bitter end. The mind that was once protected by the unmoveable rock, has formed a RIFT. A split or a break into the fragile mind which surfaced the fear once buried away. How can one mend the rift? How can one deal with the re-surfaced fear? How can one trust another again? The first futile attempt, was to start over and form a friendship with that individual. How can one start a friendship with one who is only interested in sexual advancements? The second attempt, was to revert back to their former self of mental reclusion from the outside world. Is that anyway to live? You be the judge....